Hi so I’m a 22f and I’m kind of at my wits end when it comes to dating girls. I realised last year that I was a lesbian after thinking I was bi for a long time and was excited to start openly dating women as I’d always been kind of shy before to go for it before. So I was on dating apps and went on a few dates but every single time the person seemed to end up cutting things off because they just wanted to have fun and I seemed to me someone who they ‘ wanted to be serious with or they couldn’t give me what I wanted ‘ I will add I never did anything sexual with any of them because I feel I just need more trust and to actually know the person before doing that and it had only been a few dates with each of them. I took a break cos was feeling a bit let down by my experiences when I had gone into it so excited and optimistic. I recently decided to go on another date, I thought it went well and she had originally asked me what I was doing next week so I assumed it was leading into her wanting to hang out again but when I messaged saying I had fun and wanted to plan something else them told her to message my number (we were talking on insta) she ghosted me. Not the first time I had been ghosted btw, but the only other time the girl was bi and unsure about whether she really liked girls then apologised later on. Sorry this was a really long post but basically I just need advice from other lesbians cos maybe I’m doing something wrong but I’m unaware of it, I’ve also just decided to quit it with the dating for now as icl my confidence has decreased due to all these interactions.

I'm a 28/m who works as a professor in a mid-sized university. It's early in the summer semester and I'm just staring down my first pile of marking. Naturally, I'm looking for a distraction. Come tell me about your day, what you're dreading or looking forward to, ask any questions, share a joke, or just come vent. I'm not fussy about ages and interests. As long as you're engaging and fun, we'll get along fine. Hope to hear from some of you fascinating people soon.

Hey, I'm Matt! I am a very optimistic and lighthearted person who has a very positive outlook on everything and who will most definitely laugh at every joke you tell me. I will be an upcoming 3rd year college student studying Business Management, and I'm also studying environmental science! I have so many interests, so I'm sure that I would be able to easily connect and vibe with so many people, I just ask that you're able to hold a conversation please! Here's a few of the things that I love:
• Traveling! Whenever I'm not busy with school or work, I absolutely love traveling to new places and exploring them. When traveling, the thing I do the most is embrace the culture of that place, whether it be from trying their local cuisines or exploring local hidden gems that are less traveled to. Ask me where I've traveled to and I'll gladly flood you with all of my travel pictures!
• Music! Music is probably the biggest interest of mine, as I use it to relax and escape from my outside worries. I listen to basically every genre of music, so it is very difficult for me to find a song that I won't like, and I openly encourage anyone to send me recommendations for stuff that they like! I have a very soft spot for older music (60s-80s, especially soft rock!), and it would have to be my favorite type of music. In addition, I've just gotten into collecting vinyl and physical music, but my collection is quickly growing! Although it is super difficult for me to pick a favorite artist, I would have to say my favorite artists are either David Bowie or Taylor Swift!
• Going to the gym! I've only recently in the past year gotten REALLY into going to the gym (5-6 days a week), and I look forward to going each day! I consider myself a bit of a "Cardio King", if you may since I basically only work on my legs, but I've been trying to get into lifting recently!
• Gaming! In terms of gaming, I dabble in both physical gaming and online gaming. Recently, I just got back into the Pokemon Trading Card Game after a long absence, and I'm loving it so far! For online games, I love most genres of games and am very open to trying new games with, whether that be the games that I'm really into playing right now (Valorant and OW2) or any other single or multiplayer game, I'm very flexible!
Haven't really had any luck with meeting many people that I've been able to form a meaningful relationship with in the past, so thought I would try and post here to hopefully find that forever person I've been searching for. So if you resonate with anything I've said in my post, I look forward to you messaging me so we can both get to know each other better :)

Yesterday I agreed to meet an acquaintance for lunch for what I thought was just a friendly catch-up. This guy is the husband of a woman I'm actually better friends with and the reason I know him. She is currently out of town helping family. Well, I think this guy thought we were on a date but only if I indicated I was interested. He was very "on" - monologuing about his job for 20 mins like he was trying to impress, acting nervous and fidgety, tried to pay for my food (I declined), scooting closer to me (and me backing away), was vaguely patronizing and weird, and started to complain about his wife/marriage too but I shut that down instantly. The vibe was just OFF, like he was feeling me out if I would be interested in him sexually. Which, absolutely not, in no universe would I ever be interested in this guy. He's married, I am married, and I am in no way shape or form attracted to him in any way whatsoever and have never once indicated that I am. Unless you count normal conversation as flirting, and he might.
I left after lunch and started analyzing why I felt so strange and gross about the whole encounter. I really think he asked me on a "date not a date unless you want it to be a date...?" And I am so angry for my friend, his wife. She's such a good person, a genuinely kind and caring soul. One of the best people I know. I slept on it, then I wrote to her this morning letting her know we met for lunch and expressing sympathy about her family situation, asking her if she and I can meet up soon next time she is around. Just so she knows, to be totally transparent, and in case he tries to frame it differently.
I think he's out here trying to cheat while she's working out of town to pay their mortgage and helping her sick family. Should I have known better than to meet him for lunch? I literally never want to talk to him again now, I am so angry for her and at him for putting me in that position. He kept it plausibly deniable, of course, but my intuition said this felt inappropriate somehow. Like he had dishonest intentions. Do I really need to spell it out to a married man as a married woman that meeting up for a lunch is not a date? I have plenty of other married guy friends I can meet up with for a coffee or food and it's not weird at all.

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The laptop in question is 3 years old, has an intel i7 9th gen and a GTX 1650. It also has 1.3TB of storage and 16GB of RAM, it has been well taken care of (no misuse, cooling pad etc.) but is 3 years old. The laptop would cost me 200 euros
I have 750 euros (euros and dollars are worth roughly the same) to spend on a new pc, I can get this laptop and still have money left that i will save up further for a new pc when the used laptop i'd buy breaks or i can get an entirely new pc from somewhere else. If I do get a new pc i would prefer getting a pc in the 900 to 1000 euro range meaning i'd save up for a bit more
I dont play very demanding video games, the most demanding game I ever played regularly was warframe and otherwise i primarily play mobile games, i use my current pc mostly for discord. I also sometimes play games on bluestacks
Should I get this laptop or buy a new pc? What do you suggest
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Im asking this for somebody else but they'll have the post link so pretend im the one needing help with this ok thanks, they also saw this post before i put it on here

I’m changing my son (5w) over from enfamil neuropro to Bobbie gentle. (I’ve been wanting to be on Bobbie from the start but had pediatricians that just brushed off every concern abd said no powdered formula at all for baby under 2 months… New ped agreed baby should try gentle formula and prefers this style too.)
My question is should I titrate? New ped says not needed. Old ped agreed (I asked when I wanted to change him, but they convinced me he just had to get older.) but online says titrate. Help

I made some reaserch, but I think it best to ask you guys. I want to buy new dining tabel that will also be used for gaming. I thought about 120cmx120cm table with 50cm extensions. It could be little cramped with it unfolded. Because of that a though maybe 110cm width would work better. What are your experiences/setups? What table would you recommend? I have 140cmx100cm table that I'll be getting rid off, and it's for sure too small.

It’s been a slow burn over the last year and a half but in these last 16 months I haven’t slept in my bed except for once when I was really sick. The only window my wife and I have to ourselves is when our eldest child gets to go spend the night with her grandparents. It leaves us with our youngest who can’t sleep through the night. Since she was born, it’s been sleepless nights that result in me staying in the kiddos room until she falls asleep.
I’ve taken it upon myself to be there every night because my wife works early in the morning and is in HR dealing with people all day. The days she has tried to stay and help, it has always been a really tough morning for her to rally for work. So I get up and make sure she can get rest.
A year and a half later of this routine and we have had zero intimacy. A couple months ago when our kiddo left for the weekend, I tried my best to set the mood and have a night together. She told me that she doesn’t feel up to it anymore because she doesn’t like who she sees in the mirror. Totally get it! New job, new kiddo, body’s change and after our first, it was a bit tough to adjust too also
However, this has become now a roommate—at best—situation. I love yous have gone away, going to kiss in the lips gets a turned cheek or forehead, making any kind of adult/sexual joke, hugs from behind, holding hands. I haven’t felt this way since we started dating.
Brought it up to my wife the next time we had a window and asked if I was doing something wrong. She broke down and said she doesn’t like seeing herself naked and watching us have sex makes her uncomfortable. Then continues that she is sure i feel the same way and won’t admit it.
Nothing I say or do will convince her otherwise. Now I don’t feel good because, like something is wrong with me. I don’t know how to get across that I want to just share the intimacy again. She told me that all men will say what they want to have sex. Makes me feel like I’m not even seen as her husband…like I’m just trying to “get mine”.
So a year and a half later, I’m sleeping in the girls room and not waking up next to my wife in our bed. If I mention it it or anything than I’m the asshole for not asking for help. If I ask for help, her day is ruined the next morning. If I want to be intimate I’m left feeling like I violated something. I bring up that I just want feel something too…it turns into a fight where she thinks it’s all her fault.
I’ve retreated into myself and really don’t know what to do. I feel stuck in the this purgatory of being in a marriage/family and not feeling whole or even seen by my spouse

I completed the Salesforce Administrator certification in 2020 and now I’m thinking about getting my second. I’m between the advanced administrator and sales cloud consultant certifications. I haven’t been in the job market recently to know what’s been most asked for by recruiters. Any suggestions? I’m currently in healthcare tech with 4+ years of experience in SF. I appreciate any insights!

I’ve been thinking about suicide for a while, or for my entire life actually since I was 10 maybe. I never had the guts to do it though. I would always think to myself “what if tomorrow is a better day? what if a miracle happens tomorrow?” A miracle actually never happened and my life got progressively worse over the years. But I really thought I could be strong and withstand the pain but I just broke yesterday.
My parents and I were on day long road trip going home from my family house in the village which is a very traumatic place for me. The roads were deserted and gloomy at night so while my parents stopped at a gas station, for some reason, I just decided to take a walk far far away from them.
I crossed the wide street and went to a motel type place that was a bit far. I went inside and there was just a woman inside and asked me to be careful while walking outside in the dark. The motel had a nice antique decor so I wanted to explore and she allowed me to. I went through every hallway in all 7 floors which I’m pretty sure were completely. And there was a green light EXIT sign on the 7th floor that lead to a door. I expected that the door to the roof would be closed but somehow it wasn’t. I went out, felt the breath of the air on me and within a minute I decided to jump. In another minute I was to the edge of the roof at the back of the building so nobody would see what I’m doing and I saw desert sand staring right back at me when I stood over at the edge.
I thought to myself “there’s no way i will survive this fall, i should do this, im not gonna end up paralyzed” but to assure myself I searched up online on my phone whether jumping from a 7 story building on sandy rock type terrain would kill me and it seemed like it would.
I waited for a minute to think about my life. There was something that I had to deal with very soon that would result in my family hating me which could possibly ruin my life. I thought it wasn’t worth it to move on. I thought about how I should jump but I really didn’t know how someone should jump from a building.
I just decided that I would try to land on my head but I didn’t really know how to do that.
I don’t really know how to explain it but in a split second I just decided to jump. The fall was even faster too and I really didn’t have time to think to land on my head. The fall was fast when I remember it now but I think during the actual fall it was a lot slower as well. I landed on my legs and the rest of my body landed a second later and my survival instincts kicked in and I was covering my head for the impact. I blacked out for 1?2? seconds and when I opened my eyes, my entire body was throbbing. I knew I had broken my legs but I felt like the rest of my body was fine. I gripped my hand on the sand around me and realized how soft and deep they were, they must’ve softened the fall for me.
I sat for 5 minutes there and decided to kinda half walk half crawl back to the front of the building to the lady in the help desk. She asked me how I fell and that she heard a loud thud but I just told her that I tripped really badly on the stairs but she didn’t believe me since I came in from outside and she kept on asking questions but I ignored her and moaned in pain instead. She called the people in the gas station and my parents came and my dad carried me to my car and he drove to the nearest hospital 1 and a half hours away.
I immediately slept on the hospital bed. They did some tests on me and said that both my legs were broken but nothing unfixable. I’m doing a short surgery today to fix something in my right leg. The doctors didn’t question my story but my parents who are doctors as well said that my story made no sense.
I’m tired of lying.
I feel a deep sense of shame for what I did. I don’t know why. I don’t think suicide can ever be the answer. It felt terrible. I feel bad. I disappointed my parents and most importantly, I wronged myself. How can I be mad at other people for what they do to me when I’m the biggest villain in my life? I know about all the struggles I have had to deal with in my life, I know about all the kind words and actions I have done for other people and I know all about the hopes and dreams and aspirations little me had and yet I still decided to brutally jump off a building.
I don’t know. Life isn’t that deep. I should just live one day at a time. I should be happy and try to see what life has in store for me. I never thought that I would see myself jumping off such a tall building and surviving but life has many surprises. I’m happy I survived and I’m happy that I got a second chance to die more peacefully in a less self hating way that would better honor my life.
I’m very happy now even though my parents are very stressed and worried now and my hospital room has no AC. My parents are praying and are deadly worried over some small surgery. I don’t really care though, how could anything hurt someone who survived a 7 story fall?
I know suicidal thoughts and depression can’t be simply fixed by reading a Reddit post but I hope you guys can see how suicide is the cruelest thing you can you do to someone and especially yourself.
I used to always browse this sub on the website but im very happy I wrote my first post here to say my thoughts even though I hope this will be my last post here.
Thank you for reading my mentally ill rambles on the aftermath of what happens when you decided to jump off a building in 5 minutes. I’m always open to messages from anyone who needs help. I’d really like it if people learned from my mistake.

Firstly, couldn't gather courage even till now to calculate my CSAT marks, I'm thinking of using 2-3 and answer keys simultaneously and if my answer is correct even in one of them will count it as +2.5.
Okay,
Everyone says do PYQs, I don't think PYQ's would have been able to guess the vagueness of syllabus of exam this time.
Passages were decent, options were not too close (I did them at last so compared to quant and reasoning they were definitely easy)
Reasoning - Not easy, except few questions from NumbeAlphabet based, firstly there were questions which are not part of mainstream reasoning, I mean no syllogism, no puzzle/seating arrangement, very confusing lengthy blood relation questions and that coded inequality was SBI PO mains level question and all that for just 1 question and its very hard to identify that which area to target and how to prepare. Since CAT, I think focuses more on Puzzles and SA, these were SSC questions with very high difficulty.
Quantitative aptitude- Hard. This was doable for CAT aspirants(a friend's analysis) and easier in comparison, however UPSC clearly writes that they gonna ask upto 10th level, although so many permutation and combination questions and others again pure arithmetic questions no DI.
It's very sad that now people will have to be good at all the 3 compartments, I mean it doesn't even feel like a paper where you only need passing marks.
I think it's time to give dedicated month+ time to only CSAT.

Hi so I’m a 22f and I’m kind of at my wits end when it comes to dating girls. I realised last year that I was a lesbian after thinking I was bi for a long time and was excited to start openly dating women as I’d always been kind of shy before to go for it before. So I was on dating apps and went on a few dates but every single time the person seemed to end up cutting things off because they just wanted to have fun and I seemed to me someone who they ‘ wanted to be serious with or they couldn’t give me what I wanted ‘ I will add I never did anything sexual with any of them because I feel I just need more trust and to actually know the person before doing that and it had only been a few dates with each of them. I took a break cos was feeling a bit let down by my experiences when I had gone into it so excited and optimistic. I recently decided to go on another date, I thought it went well and she had originally asked me what I was doing next week so I assumed it was leading into her wanting to hang out again but when I messaged saying I had fun and wanted to plan something else them told her to message my number (we were talking on insta) she ghosted me. Not the first time I had been ghosted btw, but the only other time the girl was bi and unsure about whether she really liked girls then apologised later on. Sorry this was a really long post but basically I just need advice from other lesbians cos maybe I’m doing something wrong but I’m unaware of it, I’ve also just decided to quit it with the dating for now as icl my confidence has decreased due to all these interactions.

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Do you typically call other Landlords and references to verify information for your new tenants? If so what is the best way to do this? Are there a set of routine questions you ask the previous Landlord or reference?

Looking for some advice/pointers on how to navigate this situation. My due date is exactly a week after my insurance plan resets for the year. For months have asked my Dr. and hospital if it’s possible to get a voluntary induction so I can give birth before my deductible resets as I’ve already paid quite a bit toward it, (haven’t met the full deductible yet as my Drs office bills for the entire prenatal care after the birth, during the 4th trimester), but they won’t induce me early if there is no medical reason to. Worried the difference of a few days is going to cost me thousands.

Hello everyone, I was doing a comparison between search platforms, and the results I obtained when using Solr versus Elastic Search were very different.
The exercise is the following: I have 450k documents and 848 answers pertaining to frequently asked questions (FAQs) both in portuguese (PT) . In the first iteration I index 50k documents plus the 848 answers of the FAQs. Then using the 848 questions from the FAQs I query Solr utilizing BM25. I then check the accuracy of the returned result by verifying if the ID of each FAQ exists in the top K within the retrieved IDs from the search query. For each following iteration I add 50k new documents and repeat the querying process and check the accuracy. This process was done the same way using Elastic Search.

How I setup Solr

First I started by creating a docker containter for Solr version 9.2.1 which went successfully and allowed me to access the Solr Admin UI. Through the docker cli I created a core through the command bin/solr create -c solr_bm25 Then utilzing the Solr Admin UI, selecting the "solr_bm25" core I went to the schema panel and there I added a Field named "text" with the field type "text_pt" which comes already with Solr.
I then ran the code where I index and query Solr at each iteration. This next code is only the essential code I'm using for indexing and querying Solr ``` import pysolr import urllib.parse

Cores were created through the UI

Connection to cores

core_admin = pysolr.SolrCoreAdmin(url= 'http://localhost:8983/soladmin/cores') bm25_corename = 'bm25_eval' url_bm25 = f'http://localhost:8983/sol{bm25_corename}' solr_bm25 = pysolr.Solr(url_bm25, always_commit= True)

Formatting of documents to index

bm25_docs = [{'id': id, 'text': text} for id, text in zip(ids,texts)]

Index to Solr

def index_solr(core_admin, core_name, solr, docs, total_docs): #Add docs to the core try: solr.add(docs) except pysolr.SolrError: pass

#Make sure that the docs exist in the core numDocs = json.loads(core_admin.status())['status'][core_name]['index']['numDocs'] timers = 0 while numDocs != total_docs: solr.commit() time.sleep(30) timers += 1 numDocs = json.loads(core_admin.status())['status'][core_name]['index']['numDocs'] print(f"Number of sleeps used: {timers}") print(f"Current Number of Docs in {core_name}: {numDocs}") return print(f'Indexation finished for {core_name}') 

Indexation

bm25

index_solr(core_admin, bm25_corename, solr_bm25, bm25_docs, total_docs)

Query Solr

bm25

text = "text:" + urllib.parse.quote(faq['Question'], safe = '') result_bm25 = solr_bm25.search(q= text, qf="text", wt = "json", rows = 10, fl = "id, score", sort = "score desc" ).docs bm25_ids_list = [res['id'] for res in result_bm25] ```

Results

The Solr results:

Solr	top_1 (%)	top_3 (%)	top_5 (%)	top_10 (%)
@50k_bm25	0,12	0,24	0,35	0,59
@100k_bm25	0	0,12	0,24	0,35
@150k_bm25	0	0,12	0,12	0,35
@200k_bm25	0	0,12	0,12	0,24
@250k_bm25	0	0	0,12	0,12
@300k_bm25	0	0	0,12	0,12
@350k_bm25	0	0	0,12	0,12
@400k_bm25	0	0	0,12	0,12
@450k_bm25	0	0	0,12	0,12

Elastic Search results:

Elastic Search	top_1 (%)	top_3 (%)	top_5 (%)	top_10 (%)
@50k_bm25	36,2	51,89	58,02	63,44
@100k_bm25	34,79	49,53	56,13	60,85
@150k_bm25	34,08	47,76	54,72	59,79
@200k_bm25	33,25	47,41	53,42	58,84
@250k_bm25	32,19	46,93	52,83	58,25
@300k_bm25	31,96	46,58	51,42	57,31
@350k_bm25	31,13	45,75	51,06	56,6
@400k_bm25	30,9	45,64	50,47	56,01
@450k_bm25	30,9	44,81	50,24	55,54

Any idea on what the issue might be to have such a gap in the results?

I have this weird rule to never use matriliner marriages. Of course, I set the game rules that ban matri for AI but I could use it for myself but try to never use it. It is kind of fun and add a welcome challenge to the game. When I have no son, I try to marry my first daughter to a nephew or a distant cousin (it's fun to look to cadet branches to find a good match), or I try to get a bastard, remarry or whatever it takes. It's exciting and without this rule it would be a bit too easy. (I even refuse to matri my courtiers, don't ask me why, I can't matri).
What is your own set or rules or weird habit you have in this game?